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Post by eddie on Tue Nov 19, 2019 8:24 pm

Security experts warn against it, but those who do it say it shows potential partners their priorities.

When single parents venture into the online dating world, the decision to include pictures of the most important people in their lives – their children – is fraught with uncertainty for some, and resolute determination for others. The results of doing so – or not – can range from a surprisingly successful relationship to a worst-case scenario that most hopeful singles would hope to avoid.
Clare Kumar, a productivity coach in Toronto, is strongly against the idea of revealing images of her kids as part of her online persona. The 51-year-old mother of two has tried a number of dating apps: Plenty of Fish, Tinder and Bumble, to name a few, and on each of them, the only picture that she presents is that of herself.
“I don’t feel it’s relevant,” she told HuffPost Canada. From her perspective, it’s more important to get to know a potential partner and perhaps build a relationship before revealing information about one’s kids.
“We need to find out about each other before the children,” Kumar explained “I don’t think kids have a role to play [at the beginnings of a relationship].”
While she does reveal immediately that she has kids, any further information about them will be revealed only if and when the relationship progresses. And she feels the same about any potential matches she’s met through dating apps, she explained.
“I wanted to know if the person had kids, how many and their ages early, but didn’t have to meet them for months.”

Valerie Ward has had less-than-perfect experiences with online dating.
“The quality of the people I’ve met is really low,” the 50-year-old mother of three from West Chester, Pa., told HuffPost Canada.

And the sex.
In Ward’s experience, so many online suitors are out for one thing and one thing only.
“They want to sleep with as many people as they can,” Ward said.
This is the key reason why she says she purposefully includes a picture of her son on her digital dating profile. In her mind, doing so weeds out the bad guys and leaves potential mates who have a higher set of standards and, hopefully, compatibility.
“[The picture with her son) humanizes me. I’m a mother.”

https://www.huffingtonpost.ca/entry/single-parent-dating-app-kids_ca_5dcec1b2e4b0294748163308?utm_source=taboola&utm_medium=exchange&guce_referrer=aHR0cHM6Ly90cmMudGFib29sYS5jb20vYW9sLWh1ZmZpbmd0b25wb3N0LXVrL2xvZy8zL2NsaWNrP3BpPSUyRm5ld3MlMkZzb2NpYWwtbmV3cyZyaT02OWMwNDMwMTQwNDcxMmFhNmMxZTkyYWE1YmYzMWRiNCZzZD12Ml83NGJkNGExYTMwYzIwNDQ3NDAyOTk1NjM2N2M5ODljMl82YjVkM2NlZS01NjcwLTRkZmUtYWJlMS1jYzVjMGFmY2JjYTYtdHVjdDRjZGQzYjJfMTU3NDE5NDczOF8xNTc0MTk0NzM4X0NLaUR3UlFRMHNjX0dOVG94YXJvTFNBQktBRXdUVGluOGcxQXU0d1FTT2lmSGxDOHRUSllBV0FBJnVpPTZiNWQzY2VlLTU2NzAtNGRmZS1hYmUxLWNjNWMwYWZjYmNhNi10dWN0NGNkZDNiMiZpdD12aWRlbyZpaT1-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&guce_referrer_sig=AQAAAFcej7VoOqv4xSC0iULjh7O7ZB0HgtV1uflqS_ig60apN3_C9TaMgBMtwqhytKRL7Mfagt2uEnecBCTJlr0H1rMboUQAO3wnhLBDRpA5H8YK-CjENbhrnWd3lwlF4Xsxwu6Jh1B6fiejljofm4k5ZHUGZR70zurv7yfge_C2J0f2&guccounter=2

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Post by Ben Reilly on Tue Nov 19, 2019 8:28 pm

I think I would definitely mention that I have kids on a dating app -- just to weed out people who would reject me just for that.

But photos? Nope.

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Post by Maddog on Wed Nov 20, 2019 4:39 pm

eddie wrote:Security experts warn against it, but those who do it say it shows potential partners their priorities.

When single parents venture into the online dating world, the decision to include pictures of the most important people in their lives – their children – is fraught with uncertainty for some, and resolute determination for others. The results of doing so – or not – can range from a surprisingly successful relationship to a worst-case scenario that most hopeful singles would hope to avoid.
Clare Kumar, a productivity coach in Toronto, is strongly against the idea of revealing images of her kids as part of her online persona. The 51-year-old mother of two has tried a number of dating apps: Plenty of Fish, Tinder and Bumble, to name a few, and on each of them, the only picture that she presents is that of herself.
“I don’t feel it’s relevant,” she told HuffPost Canada. From her perspective, it’s more important to get to know a potential partner and perhaps build a relationship before revealing information about one’s kids.
“We need to find out about each other before the children,” Kumar explained “I don’t think kids have a role to play [at the beginnings of a relationship].”
While she does reveal immediately that she has kids, any further information about them will be revealed only if and when the relationship progresses. And she feels the same about any potential matches she’s met through dating apps, she explained.
“I wanted to know if the person had kids, how many and their ages early, but didn’t have to meet them for months.”

Valerie Ward has had less-than-perfect experiences with online dating.
“The quality of the people I’ve met is really low,” the 50-year-old mother of three from West Chester, Pa., told HuffPost Canada.

And the sex.
In Ward’s experience, so many online suitors are out for one thing and one thing only.
“They want to sleep with as many people as they can,” Ward said.
This is the key reason why she says she purposefully includes a picture of her son on her digital dating profile. In her mind, doing so weeds out the bad guys and leaves potential mates who have a higher set of standards and, hopefully, compatibility.
“[The picture with her son) humanizes me. I’m a mother.”

https://www.huffingtonpost.ca/entry/single-parent-dating-app-kids_ca_5dcec1b2e4b0294748163308?utm_source=taboola&utm_medium=exchange&guce_referrer=aHR0cHM6Ly90cmMudGFib29sYS5jb20vYW9sLWh1ZmZpbmd0b25wb3N0LXVrL2xvZy8zL2NsaWNrP3BpPSUyRm5ld3MlMkZzb2NpYWwtbmV3cyZyaT02OWMwNDMwMTQwNDcxMmFhNmMxZTkyYWE1YmYzMWRiNCZzZD12Ml83NGJkNGExYTMwYzIwNDQ3NDAyOTk1NjM2N2M5ODljMl82YjVkM2NlZS01NjcwLTRkZmUtYWJlMS1jYzVjMGFmY2JjYTYtdHVjdDRjZGQzYjJfMTU3NDE5NDczOF8xNTc0MTk0NzM4X0NLaUR3UlFRMHNjX0dOVG94YXJvTFNBQktBRXdUVGluOGcxQXU0d1FTT2lmSGxDOHRUSllBV0FBJnVpPTZiNWQzY2VlLTU2NzAtNGRmZS1hYmUxLWNjNWMwYWZjYmNhNi10dWN0NGNkZDNiMiZpdD12aWRlbyZpaT1-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&guce_referrer_sig=AQAAAFcej7VoOqv4xSC0iULjh7O7ZB0HgtV1uflqS_ig60apN3_C9TaMgBMtwqhytKRL7Mfagt2uEnecBCTJlr0H1rMboUQAO3wnhLBDRpA5H8YK-CjENbhrnWd3lwlF4Xsxwu6Jh1B6fiejljofm4k5ZHUGZR70zurv7yfge_C2J0f2&guccounter=2


I haven't scanned through any dating apps recently but I remember a lot of photos of pets. I always thought that was strange. Something tells me those people are still single.

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Post by eddie on Wed Nov 20, 2019 8:07 pm

Hahahaha yeah pics of people with pets kinda seems odd.

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Post by Maddog on Thu Nov 21, 2019 3:56 pm

eddie wrote:Hahahaha yeah pics of people with pets kinda seems odd.

It's not just people with their pets. Its pictures of the pets without the people.

I think that sends a pretty clear message of what's important in their lives.

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