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Post by gelico on Tue Aug 13, 2019 1:15 am



So my youngest son went on holiday recently just for a couple of weeks then when he came back, that same day he didn't even bother to unpack his case and just said ''oh by the way mum i'm moving out'' and was gone.

apparently his GFs family have gone back to Portugal but have left their older kids here and he has gone to join them to help with the rent

then my daughter announces that she's off to Africa for good. She's been there a few times and has been offered a bundle of opportunities out there but has turned them down due to being in a long term relationship. But then she decided to just go.

She's always had the travel bug from as far back as i can remember. she's wants to go work in animal sancturys and work on conservation and saving the planet and stuff. She's booked to fly out next month on a one way ticket

i'm overjoyed that she is following her lifelong dream but shit, i'm already feeling lost and she didn't even go yet

thank heavens we live in an age of face time etc

i will still have my eldest son at home, but for how long remains to be seen.

it might soon be just me and the cat

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Post by Syl on Tue Aug 13, 2019 1:29 am

I really feel for you Gels.....the empty nest syndrome really affects lots of mums when the kids leave.
It's great that they are moving on, living their lives, following their dreams etc, but it still hurts. Crying or Very sad

Im sure your son will visit you a lot, and like you say with facetime you can keep in touch easilly no matter how far away your daughter is.....and amazingly, you do get used to the new found freedom when the kids leave home.

We always joke that the second saddest day of our lives was when our only son left home, but the very saddest was when he decided to come back again.....and he did this three times before he made a clean break. Laughing

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Post by gelico on Tue Aug 13, 2019 1:49 am



thanks syl,

in actual fact my son has only moved about 10 min walk away. he works long shifts in a london pub so i kind of only saw him in passing anyway. he said he's coming over on friday on his day off so,,,,,

but my beanie,,,,oh my.

i've told her BF he can still stay here if he likes. he doesn't want to got back to his parents and can't really afford a place of his own and he's a bit torn up over losing her so he will still be here too

damn good job or i would have to take in a lodger

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Post by phildidge on Tue Aug 13, 2019 11:27 am

gelico wrote:

So my youngest son went on holiday recently just for a couple of weeks then when he came back, that same day he didn't even bother to unpack his case and just said ''oh by the way mum i'm moving out'' and was gone.

apparently his GFs family have gone back to Portugal but have left their older kids here and he has gone to join them to help with the rent

then my daughter announces that she's off to Africa for good.  She's been there a few times and has been offered a bundle of opportunities out there but has turned them down due to being in a long term relationship.  But then she decided to just go.

She's always had the travel bug from as far back as i can remember.  she's wants to go work in animal sancturys and work on conservation and saving the planet and stuff.  She's booked to fly out next month on a one way ticket

i'm overjoyed that she is following her lifelong dream but shit, i'm already feeling lost and she didn't even go yet

thank heavens we live in an age of face time etc

i will still have my eldest son at home, but for how long remains to be seen.

it might soon be just me and the cat

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Its always difficult gelico, but think back to when you yourself left the nest to start a new life?

Its odd but I been rewatching the "Wonder years" of late and the episode I saw yesterday was the One with Karens wedding where they tell the family they are moving to Alska.

Very happy for your daughter to follow her dream and passions. This is clearly what she wants and needs to do

They both need to unfold their wings and soar high above.

Maybe this is a good opportunity for then you to do things for yourself. Find new hobbies and meet new people.

There is face chat, so you can always speak to your daughter at any time, as she can do with you. Your boy is still close as well. Plus you can always visit each other.

Maybe this will be good for you also, as it will be for them. For you to have some time to yourself

Anyway, you have us reprobates on here. Who are always here for you

Sending you hugs

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Post by Original Quill on Tue Aug 13, 2019 5:00 pm

What's the problem? His bedroom now becomes your 'She-Shed'.

Or, if you have a husband, it could become his man-cave.

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Post by Syl on Tue Aug 13, 2019 6:18 pm

gelico wrote:

thanks syl,

in actual fact my son has only moved about 10 min walk away.  he works long shifts in a london pub so i kind of only saw him in passing anyway.  he said he's coming over on friday on his day off so,,,,,

but my beanie,,,,oh my.

i've told her BF he can still stay here if he likes.  he doesn't want to got back to his parents and can't really afford a place of his own and he's a bit torn up over losing her so he will still be here too

damn good job or i would have to take in a lodger

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10 minutes walk away, you will probably see more of him now than when he lived at home. Laughing

You and your daughters boyfriend can be company for each other, and I do agree with Didge that this is an ideal time to spread your own wings, join clubs, discover hobbies, make new friends, you seem so outgoing I doubt that'll be much trouble for you to do.

Life is a series of chapters....you are starting on a new one. x




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Post by Maddog on Wed Aug 14, 2019 1:54 am

Having my daughters scattered around the state was never part of my plan. I stay very busy, but I still miss the hell out of them. I'm not a phone person, so the gaps in our talks and visits are too long.

Plus, they all have these stinky poop head boys in their lives that have sort of taken my place. They were supposed to remain single until their 50's. Wink

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Post by gelico on Wed Aug 14, 2019 1:02 pm



thanks for the comments syl and didge, they make a lot of sense, i know you're both right

quill, i'm known as a bit of an old bat so i might have me a bat cave, you've given me something to think about

lol, maddog, reminds me of when beanie was young. my dad had said to my hubby, ''my god, she's gorgeous, she's gonna drive the boys crazy when she's older'' at which point hubby retorted ''no she bleedin' won't, she's gonna be grounded till she's 35''

lol!

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Post by Original Quill on Wed Aug 14, 2019 6:32 pm

gelico wrote:quill, i'm known as a bit of an old bat so i might have me a bat cave, you've given me something to think about

Bat cave...what a great idea. Laughing

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