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Post by veya_victaous on Thu Mar 15, 2018 10:35 pm

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YOU may think you’re only attracted to the opposite sex, but strictly straight people don’t exist, according to a psychologist.

It turns out we’re all bisexual, getting turned on by both men and women, regardless of what we say.

Researchers from Cornell University asked volunteers to watch a series of porn videos to test what turned them on and what didn’t.

Their research questions society’s strict definitions of sexuality and warns that we still struggle with the idea of bisexuality, especially when it comes to men.

Lead author Rich Savin-Williams suggests that sexuality exists on a spectrum and that younger generations are more open to the idea of fluid sexuality than older adults.

Both male and female volunteers were asked to watch porn involving men or women as part of the research.

Experts measured how much their pupils dilated — a sign of sexual arousal.

Women’s eyes dilated watching both men with women and women with women.

And men’s pupils dilated watching both men and women masturbate, regardless of how they identified sexually.


Dr Savin-Williams warned that cultural expectations of sexuality need to change in order for people to be more comfortable with who they are attracted to.

“We’ve always recognised mostly straight women, that is, women who mostly are straight but if the right woman comes along, well maybe she’ll try it out. We used to think that was only a female phenomenon,” Dr Savin-Williams told Broadly.

“There are aspects [of male sexuality] along a continuum, just as we have always recognised with women.

“Men have gotten so much cultural c**p put on them that even if a man does have some sexual attraction to guys, they would never say it.”

Previous research has suggested that women’s sexuality can change throughout their life.

Psychologist Dr Lisa Diamond of the University of Utah said it was not always the case that “once a lesbian, always a lesbian”.

She added: “Historically, sexual orientation models assumed only two categories, exclusively homosexual and exclusively heterosexual.

“Anything else is ‘transitional’, ‘confusion’, ‘experimental’. As a result, researchers routinely eliminated bisexual individuals from research samples. Big mistake.”

Surveys show more people identify themselves as “mostly-but-not completely heterosexual” than exclusively heterosexual. The smallest group is those that are exclusively attracted to the same sex.

But other research has found that being gay is written in your DNA.

US researchers from NorthShore University in Illinois found sections of genes that may influence whether a man is gay or straight.

They scanned the DNA of 1,100 gay and 1,200 straight men and found two distinct areas of genes they believe play a part in male sexual orientation.

Rich Savin-Williams has written a book, Mostly Straight: Sexual Fluidity Among Men that follows on from the research.

http://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/relationships/sex/according-to-a-new-study-straight-people-dont-exist/news-story/02721771c94ea0937bb2e4e3da36cfd4

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Post by Guest on Sun Jul 29, 2018 8:51 am

Eilzel wrote:
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Behave, now you are backtracking

Laughing

Its very clear that a proportion of men who class themselves as gay have been attracted to women. The above shows this even more so. Where you were trying to claim they constantly faked this day in and day out. To me that is bullshit mate and that they clearly were sexually attracted to their wives. Where again and like I say, they simple and heavily prefer sex with the same sex

Laughing

No one is backtracking, you seem to be confused.

Didge wrote:Lol so now I am confused? Really?

Find me one post where I denied the existence of bisexuality or suggested many people were not bisexual. Of course they are.

Didge wrote:How very defensive of you, when you argued constantly these men were gay and faking this with their wives

Nothing you have shown proves sexual attraction toward women from GAY men, even if married to them. The only evidence of that would be a gay man saying he was sexually attracted to his wife on whatever level. Yet you have shown nothing to suggest otherwise, and linked to a source which links to another page which does no show the data let alone where it was collected.

Didge wrote:Just having long term relationships and having sex with their female partners is not evidence for you?

Come again?

You think I need to have the opinion of someone who has lied throughout his relationship to his wife on this to be honest?

When its blatantly clear within dating them and asking them to marry, they certainly in some form were attracted to them phhsycially and sexually.

You can keep denying this all you want, but the evidence is there, that they have had sexual relationships with women. Now we can argue over whether it should be classed as bisexual and granted I will conceede, that there is many avenues on the spetrum of sexuality, but its very clear. Thorughout, that you have argued that these men were in the main faking this. I simple was never going to buy such a bullshit answer and no experince stories would change that

Does bisexuality exist? Yes, of course.
Do some bisexual people marry people of the opposite gender? Yes, obviously.
Are most gay men who married or marry women really bisexuals in denial? You have done nothing to show this to be the case for most, or even your mysterious '25%', so until you can, I won't reply further, or we'll just be going round it circles.

Now you are now being a real sulk over this  Laughing . You wont reply to me?

Get a grip mate

I am not bothered that you do not believe me. I rest my case on the reality here. Where its clear to me, many of these gay men in hetrosexual marriages, are not 100% gay are they?

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Post by Syl on Sun Jul 29, 2018 12:44 pm

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nicko wrote:Eilzel,  Imay have missed your reply on this, but have you ever had intercourse with a Woman ?

I mentioned by experience in a longer post above, nicko. I did, once. I hated it and wouldn't consider it again. It was before I came out and I just imagined she was someone else. Not a pleasant experience Neutral

Your posts have been really interesting throughout this thread, so thanks. Smile

I agree with everything you have said, speaking honestly from your own experiences and also giving your thoughtful  opinion on others.

I think people can come out with as many statistics as they like, maybe a good % of gay men have had relationships with women, that doesn't mean they were attracted to them sexually, as has been said, there are many ways men (and women) can do the motions without the feelings, and only they know whether they are gay, bi or straight.

If I was gay I would be a bit insulted to be called bi-sexual if I wasn't.
I am straight and no one has ever implied differently......so whats the difference?

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Post by Eilzel on Sun Jul 29, 2018 2:56 pm

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nicko wrote:Eilzel,  Imay have missed your reply on this, but have you ever had intercourse with a Woman ?

I mentioned by experience in a longer post above, nicko. I did, once. I hated it and wouldn't consider it again. It was before I came out and I just imagined she was someone else. Not a pleasant experience Neutral

Your posts have been really interesting throughout this thread, so thanks. Smile

I agree with everything you have said, speaking honestly from your own experiences and also giving your thoughtful  opinion on others.

I think people can come out with as many statistics as they like, maybe a good % of gay men have had relationships with women, that doesn't mean they were attracted to them sexually, as has been said, there are many ways men (and women) can do the motions without the feelings, and only they know whether they are gay, bi or straight.

If I was gay I would be a bit insulted to be called bi-sexual if I wasn't.
I am straight and no one has ever implied differently......so whats the difference?

Exactly, it is so bizarre to have someone saying they know better than the people themselves what their sexuality is. All the more so since there is little reason to insist one is gay! Lol

Glad you've found it interesting, it isn't something I've talked much about.

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Post by Guest on Sun Jul 29, 2018 3:09 pm

Eilzel wrote:
Syl wrote:

Your posts have been really interesting throughout this thread, so thanks. Smile

I agree with everything you have said, speaking honestly from your own experiences and also giving your thoughtful  opinion on others.

I think people can come out with as many statistics as they like, maybe a good % of gay men have had relationships with women, that doesn't mean they were attracted to them sexually, as has been said, there are many ways men (and women) can do the motions without the feelings, and only they know whether they are gay, bi or straight.

If I was gay I would be a bit insulted to be called bi-sexual if I wasn't.
I am straight and no one has ever implied differently......so whats the difference?

Exactly, it is so bizarre to have someone saying they know better than the people themselves what their sexuality is. All the more so since there is little reason to insist one is gay! Lol

Glad you've found it interesting, it isn't something I've talked much about.

I am sure many gay people have tantrums when its stated they are not 100% gay, because they used and absued women to lie. Of course nobody thinks about the women used here being victims here and sadly think of the men that lied to them as victims,. Which really is a warped and fucked up mentality

So nobody stated they know someones sexuality better. Which you being the little hurt victim here, think you are

Its about the realty men fucking women and being turned on to the point marrying them, clearly are not 100% gay

Hence why most of this lying men who fucked and abused women, are not 100% gay and quite frankly dickless

As in the west today and with gay rights, why are these twats still doing this to women?

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Post by Eilzel on Sun Jul 29, 2018 3:24 pm

Didge wrote:
Eilzel wrote:
Syl wrote:

Your posts have been really interesting throughout this thread, so thanks. Smile

I agree with everything you have said, speaking honestly from your own experiences and also giving your thoughtful  opinion on others.

I think people can come out with as many statistics as they like, maybe a good % of gay men have had relationships with women, that doesn't mean they were attracted to them sexually, as has been said, there are many ways men (and women) can do the motions without the feelings, and only they know whether they are gay, bi or straight.

If I was gay I would be a bit insulted to be called bi-sexual if I wasn't.
I am straight and no one has ever implied differently......so whats the difference?

Exactly, it is so bizarre to have someone saying they know better than the people themselves what their sexuality is. All the more so since there is little reason to insist one is gay! Lol

Glad you've found it interesting, it isn't something I've talked much about.

I am sure many gay people have tantrums when its stated they are not 100% gay, because they used and absued women to lie. Of course nobody thinks about the women used here being victims here and sadly think of the men that lied to them as victims,. Which really is a warped and fucked up mentality

So nobody stated they know someones sexuality better. Which you being the little hurt victim here, think you are

Its about the realty men fucking women and being turned on to the point marrying them, clearly are not 100% gay

Hence why most of this lying men who fucked and abused women, are not 100% gay and quite frankly dickless

As in the west today and with gay rights, why are these twats still doing this to women?

I don't think it is happening all that much today, in the west at least. When it did happen, it is hardly rocket science working out why they did it. It isn't right, but nor is the situation which forced them in to it.

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Post by Guest on Sun Jul 29, 2018 3:32 pm

Eilzel wrote:
Didge wrote:

I am sure many gay people have tantrums when its stated they are not 100% gay, because they used and absued women to lie. Of course nobody thinks about the women used here being victims here and sadly think of the men that lied to them as victims,. Which really is a warped and fucked up mentality

So nobody stated they know someones sexuality better. Which you being the little hurt victim here, think you are

Its about the realty men fucking women and being turned on to the point marrying them, clearly are not 100% gay

Hence why most of this lying men who fucked and abused women, are not 100% gay and quite frankly dickless

As in the west today and with gay rights, why are these twats still doing this to women?

I don't think it is happening all that much today, in the west at least. When it did happen, it is hardly rocket science working out why they did it. It isn't right, but nor is the situation which forced them in to it.

Well tell my sister that, being as her life has been turned upside down, by the fact her husband has left her stating he has always been gay. Nobody forced him into this and that view is shockingingly ignorant to claim. When we have had gay rights for decades. Those doing this are gutless cowards in my book who live within the west. He certainly was attracted to my sister. Hence why I knew you were talking shit on this.

With the above you show how badly you are an apologist for this and say its not rocket science why they did. This is what disgusts me when people make piss poor excuses. There is no reason in this day and age to marry someone of the opposite sex in the west and maitain a lie, when they are gay. So dont give me bullshit about being forced. That is 100% a utter lie.

As seen you care more for the lying gay person here and not the real victim, the wife, my sister with her world torn apart

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Post by Guest on Sun Jul 29, 2018 3:49 pm

Didge wrote:
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I don't think it is happening all that much today, in the west at least. When it did happen, it is hardly rocket science working out why they did it. It isn't right, but nor is the situation which forced them in to it.

Well tell my sister that, being as her life has been turned upside down, by the fact her husband has left her stating he has always been gay. Nobody forced him into this and that view is shockingingly ignorant to claim. When we have had gay rights for decades. Those doing this are gutless cowards in my book who live within the west. He certainly was attracted to my sister. Hence why I knew you were talking shit on this.

With the above you show how badly you are an apologist for this and say its not rocket science why they did. This is what disgusts me when people make piss poor excuses. There is no reason in this day and age to marry someone of the opposite sex in the west and maitain a lie, when they are gay. So dont give me bullshit about being forced. That is 100% a utter lie.

As seen you care more for the lying gay person here and not the real victim, the wife, my sister with her world torn apart


OMG! I'm so sorry for your sister, didge. What a terrible thing to go through for a woman. Had they been married long? and did they have any children? you didn't mention that

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Post by Guest on Sun Jul 29, 2018 4:02 pm

gelico wrote:
Didge wrote:

Well tell my sister that, being as her life has been turned upside down, by the fact her husband has left her stating he has always been gay. Nobody forced him into this and that view is shockingingly ignorant to claim. When we have had gay rights for decades. Those doing this are gutless cowards in my book who live within the west. He certainly was attracted to my sister. Hence why I knew you were talking shit on this.

With the above you show how badly you are an apologist for this and say its not rocket science why they did. This is what disgusts me when people make piss poor excuses. There is no reason in this day and age to marry someone of the opposite sex in the west and maitain a lie, when they are gay. So dont give me bullshit about being forced. That is 100% a utter lie.

As seen you care more for the lying gay person here and not the real victim, the wife, my sister with her world torn apart


OMG!  I'm so sorry for your sister, didge.  What a terrible thing to go through for a woman.  Had they been married long?  and did they have any children?  you didn't mention that

21 years with 3 children

Hence why I am sick to death of this pathetic mentality of seeing only the person that comes out as the victim

Nobody speaks about where the real victim is the one who 's life has been shattered.

I think its wrong to be with someone, if you do not love them. He did love her and was actually very effectionate around her. I do not think he 100% gay either, hence my points throughout. To me he is not a victim and anyone celebrating about him coming out, is a twat, because he  is a lying twat

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Post by Eilzel on Sun Jul 29, 2018 4:04 pm

Didge wrote:
Eilzel wrote:
Didge wrote:

I am sure many gay people have tantrums when its stated they are not 100% gay, because they used and absued women to lie. Of course nobody thinks about the women used here being victims here and sadly think of the men that lied to them as victims,. Which really is a warped and fucked up mentality

So nobody stated they know someones sexuality better. Which you being the little hurt victim here, think you are

Its about the realty men fucking women and being turned on to the point marrying them, clearly are not 100% gay

Hence why most of this lying men who fucked and abused women, are not 100% gay and quite frankly dickless

As in the west today and with gay rights, why are these twats still doing this to women?

I don't think it is happening all that much today, in the west at least. When it did happen, it is hardly rocket science working out why they did it. It isn't right, but nor is the situation which forced them in to it.

Well tell my sister that, being as her life has been turned upside down, by the fact her husband has left her stating he has always been gay. Nobody forced him into this and that view is shockingingly ignorant to claim. When we have had gay rights for decades. Those doing this are gutless cowards in my book who live within the west. He certainly was attracted to my sister. Hence why I knew you were talking shit on this.

With the above you show how badly you are an apologist for this and say its not rocket science why they did. This is what disgusts me when people make piss poor excuses. There is no reason in this day and age to marry someone of the opposite sex in the west and maitain a lie, when they are gay. So dont give me bullshit about being forced. That is 100% a utter lie.

As seen you care more for the lying gay person here and not the real victim, the wife, my sister with her world torn apart

I'm sorry for your sister.

It is still very uncommon thesedays though didge, for a gay man to cover his sexuality by marrying a woman (in the west). It obviously did happen in the past for reasons I've stated.

Why your brother-in-law did it I don't know. Whether he was ever sexually attracted to your sister only he knows.

Maybe he is bi, maybe not; that doesn't mean he is an example for all though. And as you said to me earlier, it is pretty clear, and totally understable, that you may be emotionally biased here.

Again, very sorry for her.

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Post by Guest on Sun Jul 29, 2018 4:12 pm

Eilzel wrote:
Didge wrote:

Well tell my sister that, being as her life has been turned upside down, by the fact her husband has left her stating he has always been gay. Nobody forced him into this and that view is shockingingly ignorant to claim. When we have had gay rights for decades. Those doing this are gutless cowards in my book who live within the west. He certainly was attracted to my sister. Hence why I knew you were talking shit on this.

With the above you show how badly you are an apologist for this and say its not rocket science why they did. This is what disgusts me when people make piss poor excuses. There is no reason in this day and age to marry someone of the opposite sex in the west and maitain a lie, when they are gay. So dont give me bullshit about being forced. That is 100% a utter lie.

As seen you care more for the lying gay person here and not the real victim, the wife, my sister with her world torn apart

I'm sorry for your sister.

It is still very uncommon thesedays though didge, for a gay man to cover his sexuality by marrying a woman (in the west). It obviously did happen in the past for reasons I've stated.

Why your brother-in-law did it I don't know. Whether he was ever sexually attracted to your sister only he knows.

Maybe he is bi, maybe not; that doesn't mean he is an example for all though. And as you said to me earlier, it is pretty clear, and totally understable, that you may be emotionally biased here.

Again, very sorry for her.

I dont need your apologist bullshit, period

I watched them together and he was very effectionate around her. One thing I have been cursed in life with is understanding people and he never ever gave any indication he was gay, To me, I think its simple sexual experimentation. Hence I do not think he is gay. Hence i think its a bullshit excuse. He is now living with another man

So it makes me have very little sympathy when people claim they are gay and live a lie in life, in the west, when again there is no reason to do so.

So dont tell me whether he was attracted to her or not, he was.

I am emotionally compremised and its make me feel less sympathy now towards gay people.

Is that unfair?

Absolutely, but now I am thinking about the countless real victims in all this. The many men and women, who have had their lives turned upside down by people living a lie, when they are gay. People celebrate them coming out. What a crock, because nobody gives a spare thought to those who were used here and the real victims, their spouses and partners

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Post by Guest on Sun Jul 29, 2018 4:21 pm

Didge wrote:
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I'm sorry for your sister.

It is still very uncommon thesedays though didge, for a gay man to cover his sexuality by marrying a woman (in the west). It obviously did happen in the past for reasons I've stated.

Why your brother-in-law did it I don't know. Whether he was ever sexually attracted to your sister only he knows.

Maybe he is bi, maybe not; that doesn't mean he is an example for all though. And as you said to me earlier, it is pretty clear, and totally understable, that you may be emotionally biased here.

Again, very sorry for her.

I dont need your apologist bullshit, period

I watched them together and he was very effectionate around her. One thing I have been cursed in life with is understanding people and he never ever gave any indication he was gay, To me, I think its simple sexual experimentation. Hence I do not think he is gay. Hence i think its a bullshit excuse. He is now living with another man


well, he wouldn't would he? not if he was denying it to himself all these years.

I am sure he was affectionate towards her. I'm sure he felt a great deal of affection for her also, but eventually chose to be true to himself. It must have been the most difficult thing he's ever done but the alternative is to continue living a lie and I guess he couldn't do that.

I remember watching a film about this years ago, can't remember what it was called though.

There's no denying that the partner of many years in this situation is devastated but ultimately people have to be honest about who and what they are. Would it have made a difference if he'd run off with another woman?

not sure taking it out on les is fair though

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Post by Guest on Sun Jul 29, 2018 4:29 pm

gelico wrote:
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I dont need your apologist bullshit, period

I watched them together and he was very effectionate around her. One thing I have been cursed in life with is understanding people and he never ever gave any indication he was gay, To me, I think its simple sexual experimentation. Hence I do not think he is gay. Hence i think its a bullshit excuse. He is now living with another man


well, he wouldn't would he?  not if he was denying it to himself all these years.

I am sure he was affectionate towards her.  I'm sure he felt a great deal of affection for her also, but eventually chose to be true to himself.  It must have been the most difficult thing he's ever done but the alternative is to continue living a lie and I guess he couldn't do that.

I remember watching a film about this years ago, can't remember what it was called though.

There's no denying that the partner of many years in this situation is devastated but ultimately people have to be honest about who and what they are.  Would it have made a difference if he'd run off with another woman?

not sure taking it out on les is fair though

Well that is how I feel

I agree people should not live a lie, but 21 years of doing so?

Like I say, I do not think he is even gay

He is simple exploring sexual pleausre to me

I simple cannot stand Eilzel's apologist view, where he seems to think the victim, is always the person that comes out gay

To me that is a crock. As we are not living in the Middle east

You ask if he had run off with another woman? Good question but irrelevant, as that is not the case here, is it?

As my sister, feels now completely used and believes her entire marriage has been based on a lie

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Post by Syl on Sun Jul 29, 2018 7:00 pm

I feel sorry for your sister too, knowing your married life has been based on a lie must be horrible.
I also knew a married mum with 2 kids who was devastated when her OH of many years left her for a man, claiming he was gay and always had been. Only the men concerned know if they are bi-sexual, gay or straight...the odd case doesn't count for the many.

I dont think anyone is applauding these men, just understanding why they acted the way they did....a couple of decades ago the world was very different to how it is now.

Women have also married and had children to cover up the fact they are lesbians.....it's not just men who use others to cover their real sexuality.

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Post by Guest on Sun Jul 29, 2018 7:10 pm

Syl wrote:I feel sorry for your sister too, knowing your married life has been based on a lie must be horrible.
I also knew a married mum with 2 kids who was devastated when her OH of many years left her for a man, claiming he was gay and always had been. Only the men concerned know if they are bi-sexual, gay or straight...the odd case doesn't count for the many.

I dont think anyone is applauding these men, just understanding why they acted the way they did....a couple of decades ago the world was very different to how it is now.

Women have also married and had children to cover up the fact they are lesbians.....it's not just men who use others to cover their real sexuality.

Syl, I have loads of respect for Eilzel and would defend his rights to be gay for all time. It is frustration at all of this that is coming out. I respect Eilzel more than most, but here I am at odds with some of his views, not him as a person

I am simple taking issue over how and I guess being that he is gay. That there is an immediate view to look at the person coming out. As iff they are some sort of hero. Where people continually neglect the fact there is an actual injured party within all of this.

So I agree with all your points, but do not see those, where in the west there is no real reason to hide being gay (maybe within an Muslim/orthodox Jewish community granted). To then live a lie with someone. The reality is though Syl, many within the gay community would appluad him for coming out. Where in this case I have very little respect now for this person, who I saw as very much part of the family. I think he was very selfish.

And its doubtful my opinion will change on that

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Post by Syl on Sun Jul 29, 2018 7:23 pm

Didge wrote:
Syl wrote:I feel sorry for your sister too, knowing your married life has been based on a lie must be horrible.
I also knew a married mum with 2 kids who was devastated when her OH of many years left her for a man, claiming he was gay and always had been. Only the men concerned know if they are bi-sexual, gay or straight...the odd case doesn't count for the many.

I dont think anyone is applauding these men, just understanding why they acted the way they did....a couple of decades ago the world was very different to how it is now.

Women have also married and had children to cover up the fact they are lesbians.....it's not just men who use others to cover their real sexuality.

Syl, I have loads of respect for Eilzel and would defend his rights to be gay for all time. It is frustration at all of this that is coming out. I respect Eilzel more than most, but here I am at odds with some of his views, not him as a person

I am simple taking issue over how and I guess being that he is gay. That there is an immediate view to look at the person coming out. As iff they are some sort of hero. Where people continually neglect the fact there is an actual injured party within all of this.

So I agree with all your points, but do not see those, where in the west there is no real reason to hide being gay (maybe within an Muslim/orthodox Jewish community granted). To then live a lie with someone. The reality is though Syl, many within the gay community would appluad him for coming out. Where in this case I have very little respect now for this person, who I saw as very much part of the family. I think he was very selfish.

And its doubtful my opinion will change on that

I'm sure most people would feel the same as you re your brother in law, if someone hurts someone you love, it's very hard to forgive them, probably harder than if it's you yourself who has been betrayed.

I'm not speaking for Eilzel because he has spoken brilliantly himself in this thread, but I dont think anyone was applauding men who marry to cover up their sexuality, just pointing out that indeed that is one reason why gay men have married in the past.
And just because they have married, had sex, had children, that doesn't necessarily make then bi-sexual.....which was how this debate started.

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Post by Guest on Sun Jul 29, 2018 7:31 pm

Syl wrote:
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Syl, I have loads of respect for Eilzel and would defend his rights to be gay for all time. It is frustration at all of this that is coming out. I respect Eilzel more than most, but here I am at odds with some of his views, not him as a person

I am simple taking issue over how and I guess being that he is gay. That there is an immediate view to look at the person coming out. As iff they are some sort of hero. Where people continually neglect the fact there is an actual injured party within all of this.

So I agree with all your points, but do not see those, where in the west there is no real reason to hide being gay (maybe within an Muslim/orthodox Jewish community granted). To then live a lie with someone. The reality is though Syl, many within the gay community would appluad him for coming out. Where in this case I have very little respect now for this person, who I saw as very much part of the family. I think he was very selfish.

And its doubtful my opinion will change on that

I'm sure most people would feel the same as you re your brother in law, if someone hurts someone you love, it's very hard to forgive them, probably harder than if it's you yourself who has been betrayed.

I'm not speaking for Eilzel because he has spoken brilliantly himself in this thread, but I dont think anyone was applauding men who marry to cover up their sexuality, just pointing out that indeed that is one reason why gay men have married in the past.
And just because they have married, had sex, had children, that doesn't necessarily make then bi-sexual.....which was how this debate started.

I completely disagree on your later point Syl, as to me, its very evident he is bisexual. You simple cannot fake that sort of attention and love to someone for 21 years. What the reality is, this person is more so attracted to men, more than women.

There is a huge spectrum on sexuality and its very evident my brother-in-law was attracted to my sister and loved her. He told her he cannot though live a lie any longer. Due to the fact he was already having an affiar with someone who is gay He even stated to her, that he still finds her attractive but believes he is gay. So to me, gay? That is not being 100% gay is it and these terms, even bisexuality cannot really define peoples attractions.

So he is attracted to both men and women. That is not gay at all. Its simple a preference more so for the same sex.

I also disagree that Eilzel spoke brilliantly, where he is always going to be biased on such a topic and even he will admit that

We both at times became emotionally compremised here. Though again I am not going to hold a grudge with him over this

The reality is again, the gay community would applaud my brother-in-law and spare no thought or feeling for the victim here, my sister.

Do you know what my niece who is 13 thinks and asked me? Whether or not, she was created out of love or not?

She seriously asked me that and I had no answer.

How do you respond to such a question, as she is completely confused over all of this?

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Post by Syl on Sun Jul 29, 2018 7:48 pm

But no one was talking about your sisters ex Didge, we were speaking generally.
He may indeed be bi-sexual, some people are some are not.

I can understand why you got upset, to hear your niece question whether she was born from love must be really hard.
I seriously hope your sis and her family can move on.

I doubt many people gay or straight would encourage anyone to marry and live a lie.
I remember when Michael Barrymore came out...(pre all the business with the lad being drowned at his home) his popularity with the public diminished overnight, not because he had come out, but because of the way he had deceived his wife.

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Post by Guest on Sun Jul 29, 2018 7:58 pm

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it must be heartbreaking for the whole family, didge.

how long ago did this happen? does the brother in law still see his kids? they must be confused as hell over all this

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Post by Guest on Sun Jul 29, 2018 7:58 pm

Syl wrote:But no one was talking about your sisters ex  Didge, we were speaking generally.
He may indeed be bi-sexual, some people are some are not.

I can understand why you got upset, to hear your niece question whether she was born from love must be really hard.
I seriously hope your sis and her family can move on.

I doubt many people gay or straight would encourage anyone to marry and live a lie.
I remember when Michael Barrymore came out...(pre all the business with the lad being drowned at his home) his popularity with the public diminished overnight, not because he had come out, but because of the way he had deceived his wife.

Thanks for your kind words Syl, but again to me, I think the reality is this

Many people are not on the ends of the sexual spectrum and many fit in between.

To say someone is gay or hetrosexual and yet have had sexual encounters that compremise a said view point. Says to me it is certainly not clear cut whether people are gay, hetrosexual, bisexual ect. Its simple not apparant or from a fixed line. It seems clear to me, that many people fall within the brackets between homosexuality and hetrosexuality. I also think this needs to be studied more and how and where people define themselves as gay or hetrosexual really means. They would nev be where gay, attracted to the opposite sex and with hetrosexual. Never attracted to the same sex. Hence to me it seems evident and where men who classed themselves as gay and have had active sexual lives with women. Are in reality within the spetrum of sexuality between homosexuality and hetrosexuality

I am sure Eilzel would even admit that many people within the gay community, reading this would applaud my brother-in-law for coming out and I would stake money on that

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Post by Guest on Sun Jul 29, 2018 8:04 pm

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it must be heartbreaking for the whole family, didge.

how long ago did this happen? does the brother in law still see his kids? they must be confused as hell over all this

Two months ago

Yes he does still see them. Its the youngest more than anything that is confused

I will send you a private messsage sometime this week Gelico, if okay with you? Not in the mood or right frame of mind to do so today, as want to be fair and rational on this

I dont want to bore the forum with details on this also and think it would be unfair to do so, espcially with such a debate going on.

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Post by Syl on Sun Jul 29, 2018 8:10 pm

Some people experiment before they find out where their preferences lie.
I'm sure many people enjoy encounters with both, then settle for one or the other, they are possibly bi.

I also believe that some people can fall in love with a person, irregardless of whether they are male or female....they love/desire that person for who he/she is. Love can be blind so to speak.

There was a time when both gays and straights didn't really get bi-sexual people...they were just thought of as greedy. Razz

Its my opinion that the majority of us know exactly whether we are gay or straight., I dont go along with everyone is a little bit gay or a little bit straight....I could never fancy a woman even though I can definitely appreciate lovely looking women, I could never desire one.

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Post by Guest on Sun Jul 29, 2018 8:11 pm

Didge wrote:
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it must be heartbreaking for the whole family, didge.

how long ago did this happen? does the brother in law still see his kids? they must be confused as hell over all this

Two months ago

Yes he does still see them. Its the youngest more than anything that is confused

I will send you a private messsage sometime this week Gelico, if okay with you? Not in the mood or right frame of mind to do so today, as want to be fair and rational on this

I dont want to bore the forum with details on this also and think it would be unfair to do so, espcially with such a debate going on.


I'm sure you're not boring anyone didge and it's really good of you to share this story as it adds another dimension to the debate but I understand you must be angry and frustrated right now so PM me whenever you like, no worries x

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Post by Syl on Sun Jul 29, 2018 8:13 pm

Oh sorry, I inadvertantly posted between Didge and Gel....didn't mean to be flippant.
I appreciate how both Eilzel and Didge have spoken openly in this thread. x

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Post by Guest on Sun Jul 29, 2018 8:17 pm



just to throw a spanner in the works

someone posted up a picture of putin about to kiss trumpton and for some bizarre reason it turned me on


oh the shame

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Post by Guest on Sun Jul 29, 2018 8:47 pm

Syl wrote:Oh sorry, I inadvertantly posted between Didge and Gel....didn't mean to be flippant.
I appreciate how both Eilzel and Didge have spoken openly in this thread. x

Oh you silly sausage.,.

You did not get in the way and appreciate your views on this and you were certainly not flippant

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I am still trying to recover from Gelico's last post about Trump and Putin. Only Gelico, could come out with something so wacky and funny. 

It would have the ability to bring about world peace her views. I may take the piss out of gelico at times with her views on conspiracies, but I really respect her and she constantly cracks me up. 

I have said before, I am in awe when she speaks about her late husband and to me how she brings him back to life with how she relays and relives her life together with him. But when it comes to humour. I will always bow down to Gelico.

She seriously cracks me up and the reality is here, I believe she is turned on in a wierd way by such a picture..

That is priceless... Laughing

I seriously think Gelico would make the best Diplomat and should be in charge of Brexit negotiations.   Laughing


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@Gelico, thank you for being understanding and you too Syl. Best wishes to Eilzel also and apologise if I was rude to you mate

Hope you all have a wonderful evening

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Post by Eilzel on Mon Jul 30, 2018 12:48 am

I just want to add that no, I do not applaud your brother-in-law here. They married in 1998/99 I guess and we were well on the way to acceptance of gay people by that point. He really had no need to start and continue the lie from that point.

I'm sure a few in the LGBT community might applaud him, but not all; these are different times.

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Post by eddie on Mon Jul 30, 2018 8:36 pm

I think some of us can have sexual pleasures / fantasies (carried out alone or with a partner) that can include members of the same sex.

I’m not sure that makes someone gay.


Re the OP and pupils, I think that’s simply because they were being shown photos of arousal which can make the person looking at the photo aroused.
Simple.

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Post by Ben Reilly on Wed Aug 01, 2018 10:57 pm

eddie wrote:I think some of us can have sexual pleasures / fantasies (carried out alone or with a partner) that can include members of the same sex.

I’m not sure that makes someone gay.


Re the OP and pupils, I think that’s simply because they were being shown photos of arousal which can make the person looking at the photo aroused.
Simple.

Okay, I never fantasize about dudes, fam. However, I could see a guy watching a video of a guy masturbating and his pupils dilating because he's thinking, "Oh that looks like fun, I'm going to go jump in bed with myself."

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Post by eddie on Wed Aug 01, 2018 10:59 pm

Ben Mothafuckin' Reilly wrote:
eddie wrote:I think some of us can have sexual pleasures / fantasies (carried out alone or with a partner) that can include members of the same sex.

I’m not sure that makes someone gay.


Re the OP and pupils, I think that’s simply because they were being shown photos of arousal which can make the person looking at the photo aroused.
Simple.

Okay, I never fantasize about dudes, fam.

However, I could see a guy watching a video of a guy masturbating and his pupils dilating because he's thinking, "Oh that looks like fun, I'm going to go jump in bed with myself."


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