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Post by eddie on Fri Aug 11, 2017 6:02 pm

Sologomy: Woman who helps others self-marry reveal what takes place in the ceremonies

Over the past few years, there has been a rise in ‘self-marriage’. This being quite as literal as it sounds – making a commitment to a deep, meaningful relationship with just yourself.

Self-marriage, otherwise known as sologamy, is not legally recognised but has been on a steady rise in recent years. In many cases, it can mirror traditional weddings with various case studies and news stories showing women in wedding dresses stood alongside their bridesmaids and wearing a wedding ring.

Dominique, from California, runs a self-marriage ceremonies website which assists people who wish to make that commitment to themselves. She says the community of people willing to do so is growing

She held her own ceremony in 2011, aged 22, after “practicing self-love for many years”, where she lit candles in her bedroom and vowed to be “kind and compassionate to myself, especially when I make mistakes”. Prior to this, she travelled across India for six months to connect with her own self-love after dedicating her career and studies to researching the subject.

While the trend has mainly been ascribed to women, who make up the majority of Dominique's clientele, she has worked with a few men. The reasons why people may self-marry vary.

“Most of the time it is a deep call from inside, the feeling that this would be the next step to living a life full of love, what is needed to commit more deeply to treat ourselves better,” she says. “Sometimes the call happens during a life transition for example when someone has broken up with their partner or got a divorce, is about to get married to someone else, or is longing to meet a life partner and knows that self-marriage is the first step.”

She lists the four components to self-marriage as: becoming your own lover and best friend, connecting with and committing to your deeper purpose, uniting all the aspects of yourself – even those which contradict each other and harmonising your external relationships and circumstances.

However, the movement is often met with cynicism and mockery. Dominique says she has experienced a mixed reaction to her own matrimony, admitting some do think it’s “crazy”.

What does she say to people who accuse those who self-marry of attention seeking and label it as nonsense?

“My experience is that most people who criticise self-marriage don't understand the full extent of it, or they see the world in a very different way than I see it. It can be thought of as something selfish or ridiculous, but when you actually take the time to consider what it really means, it is the most selfless thing a person can do: to commit to first know love within them, so they can more fully give love and be love in the world.

“For me, marrying yourself is not a performance or display of ‘look at me and how worthy of love I am!’ in some way that diminishes other people—it is a full claiming of the miracle of a single life, not separate from any other life. It is a celebration and an honouring in the deepest sense of a life in service to love and to me, this is something truly selfless, truly generous.”


http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/sologomy-women-self-marry-ceremonies-rings-what-happens-california-a7644576.html


Sound like egocentrical loons who need to go fuck themselves. Razz

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Re: Sologomy: People Are Now Marrying Themselves

Post by Syl on Fri Aug 11, 2017 6:14 pm

Ooooh, I love me who do you love? I love you

If these people actually took their head out of their arses long enough to meet and fall in love with someone else, would they have to divorce themselves in order to get married in the normal way??

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Post by magica on Fri Aug 11, 2017 6:33 pm

I always used to say to people who loved themselves, why don't you marry yourself. Now they are Shocked Madness.

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Post by Original Quill on Fri Aug 11, 2017 6:40 pm

The wedding is much cheaper. And you can go wherever you want on the honeymoon.

But you don't get as many gifts.

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Post by Syl on Fri Aug 11, 2017 6:41 pm

I sometimes think I would like a few more friends just like me....but that's cos I am great company. Razz

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Post by Raggamuffin on Fri Aug 11, 2017 6:53 pm

What a good idea - no arguments or fighting over the remote. Razz

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Re: Sologomy: People Are Now Marrying Themselves

Post by eddie on Fri Aug 11, 2017 7:40 pm

Hahahahaha some great responses.

Seriously though, question for everyone:

Would you marry a version of yourself?

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Post by magica on Fri Aug 11, 2017 9:04 pm

I married the mirror lol!

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Post by Syl on Fri Aug 11, 2017 11:12 pm

I wouldnt want to marry a version of myself....i would have no one to argue with.

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Re: Sologomy: People Are Now Marrying Themselves

Post by Lord Foul on Sat Aug 12, 2017 12:45 am

Raggamuffin wrote:What a good idea - no arguments or fighting over the remote. Razz

there are some on here that could argue with themselves......

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Re: Sologomy: People Are Now Marrying Themselves

Post by Raggamuffin on Sat Aug 12, 2017 9:02 am

Lord Foul wrote:
Raggamuffin wrote:What a good idea - no arguments or fighting over the remote. Razz

there are some on here that could argue with themselves......

True - I know someone like that. lol!

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Post by WhoseYourWolfie on Sat Aug 12, 2017 11:47 am

eddie wrote:
Sologomy: Woman who helps others self-marry reveal what takes place in the ceremonies

Over the past few years, there has been a rise in ‘self-marriage’. This being quite as literal as it sounds – making a commitment to  a deep, meaningful relationship with just yourself.

Self-marriage, otherwise known as sologamy, is not legally recognised but has been on a steady rise in recent years. In many cases, it can mirror traditional weddings with various case studies and news stories showing women in wedding dresses stood alongside their bridesmaids and wearing a wedding ring.

Dominique, from California, runs a self-marriage ceremonies website which assists people who wish to make that commitment to themselves. She says the community of people willing to do so is growing

She held her own ceremony in 2011, aged 22, after “practicing self-love for many years”, where she lit candles in her bedroom and vowed to be “kind and compassionate to myself, especially when I make mistakes”. Prior to this, she travelled across India for six months to connect with her own self-love after dedicating her career and studies to researching the subject.

While the trend has mainly been ascribed to women, who make up the majority of Dominique's clientele, she has worked with a few men. The reasons why people may self-marry vary.

“Most of the time it is a deep call from inside, the feeling that this would be the next step to living a life full of love, what is needed to commit more deeply to treat ourselves better,” she says. “Sometimes the call happens during a life transition for example when someone has broken up with their partner or got a divorce, is about to get married to someone else, or is longing to meet a life partner and knows that self-marriage is the first step.”

She lists the four components to self-marriage as: becoming your own lover and best friend, connecting with and committing to your deeper purpose, uniting all the aspects of yourself – even those which contradict each other and harmonising your external relationships and circumstances.

However, the movement is often met with cynicism and mockery. Dominique says she has experienced a mixed reaction to her own matrimony, admitting some do think it’s “crazy”.

What does she say to people who accuse those who self-marry of attention seeking and label it as nonsense?

“My experience is that most people who criticise self-marriage don't understand the full extent of it, or they see the world in a very different way than I see it. It can be thought of as something selfish or ridiculous, but when you actually take the time to consider what it really means, it is the most selfless thing a person can do: to commit to first know love within them, so they can more fully give love and be love in the world.

“For me, marrying yourself is not a performance or display of ‘look at me and how worthy of love I am!’ in some way that diminishes other people—it is a full claiming of the miracle of a single life, not separate from any other life. It is a celebration and an honouring in the deepest sense of a life in service to love and to me, this is something truly selfless, truly generous.”

http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/sologomy-women-self-marry-ceremonies-rings-what-happens-california-a7644576.html

Sound like egocentrical loons who need to go fuck themselves. Razz





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Post by Fred Moletrousers on Sat Aug 12, 2017 5:54 pm

eddie wrote:
Sologomy: Woman who helps others self-marry reveal what takes place in the ceremonies

Over the past few years, there has been a rise in ‘self-marriage’. This being quite as literal as it sounds – making a commitment to  a deep, meaningful relationship with just yourself.

Self-marriage, otherwise known as sologamy, is not legally recognised but has been on a steady rise in recent years. In many cases, it can mirror traditional weddings with various case studies and news stories showing women in wedding dresses stood alongside their bridesmaids and wearing a wedding ring.

Dominique, from California, runs a self-marriage ceremonies website which assists people who wish to make that commitment to themselves. She says the community of people willing to do so is growing

She held her own ceremony in 2011, aged 22, after “practicing self-love for many years”, where she lit candles in her bedroom and vowed to be “kind and compassionate to myself, especially when I make mistakes”. Prior to this, she travelled across India for six months to connect with her own self-love after dedicating her career and studies to researching the subject.

While the trend has mainly been ascribed to women, who make up the majority of Dominique's clientele, she has worked with a few men. The reasons why people may self-marry vary.

“Most of the time it is a deep call from inside, the feeling that this would be the next step to living a life full of love, what is needed to commit more deeply to treat ourselves better,” she says. “Sometimes the call happens during a life transition for example when someone has broken up with their partner or got a divorce, is about to get married to someone else, or is longing to meet a life partner and knows that self-marriage is the first step.”

She lists the four components to self-marriage as: becoming your own lover and best friend, connecting with and committing to your deeper purpose, uniting all the aspects of yourself – even those which contradict each other and harmonising your external relationships and circumstances.

However, the movement is often met with cynicism and mockery. Dominique says she has experienced a mixed reaction to her own matrimony, admitting some do think it’s “crazy”.

What does she say to people who accuse those who self-marry of attention seeking and label it as nonsense?

“My experience is that most people who criticise self-marriage don't understand the full extent of it, or they see the world in a very different way than I see it. It can be thought of as something selfish or ridiculous, but when you actually take the time to consider what it really means, it is the most selfless thing a person can do: to commit to first know love within them, so they can more fully give love and be love in the world.

“For me, marrying yourself is not a performance or display of ‘look at me and how worthy of love I am!’ in some way that diminishes other people—it is a full claiming of the miracle of a single life, not separate from any other life. It is a celebration and an honouring in the deepest sense of a life in service to love and to me, this is something truly selfless, truly generous.”


http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/sologomy-women-self-marry-ceremonies-rings-what-happens-california-a7644576.html


Sound like egocentrical loons who need to go fuck themselves. :P

Unless they discover a way of doing just that, there could be some interesting future law suits requiring evidence of consumation of marriage.
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Re: Sologomy: People Are Now Marrying Themselves

Post by eddie on Sun Aug 13, 2017 10:53 am

Hahahahaha I'm glad someone appreciated my joke Wolfie Razz

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Post by eddie on Sun Aug 13, 2017 7:02 pm

And by the way, for any of you contemplating sologomy....



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Post by Syl on Sun Aug 13, 2017 7:46 pm

eddie wrote:And by the way, for any of you contemplating sologomy....



Oh dear. Shocked
They do say many people are attracted to lookalikes don't they.
I married a slim dark man similar to myself....cept he has a big black tash and I don't........... thankfully. Razz

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Post by eddie on Sun Aug 13, 2017 9:41 pm

So you say. Neutral

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Post by gelico on Sun Aug 13, 2017 10:32 pm

Syl wrote:Ooooh, I love me who do you love? I love you

If these people actually took their head out of their arses long enough to meet and fall in love with someone else, would they have to divorce themselves in order  to get married in the normal way??


and who gets to keep the dog?

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Post by veya_victaous on Mon Aug 14, 2017 6:10 am

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Raggamuffin wrote:What a good idea - no arguments or fighting over the remote. Razz

there are some on here that could argue with themselves......

I totally do
But in my defense
sometimes I need an intelligent conversation Cool Cool Cool

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